How to Break the Nervousness

I am not the most confident person to tell you this. I too get nervous but all throughout my struggles of trying to combat my nervousness, I’ve discovered insights on how to calm the nerves, especially in being in front of an audience.

  1. Relax – that should be the highlight
  2. Don’t worry too much on what will become of your audience’s reaction. You are not here to please them. Express and not impress
  3. It’s okay to make mistakes. If you made a mistake, don’t dwell too much on the mistake. Learn from it and move on.
  4. Perform out of passion then you will forget that you were actually nervous.
  5. Let the confidence outweigh the nervousness. Think of possibilities as to why you are capable of doing well. Play in your mind words like, “I can do this!”
  6. Think about those people who believes in you. It is a good self–motivator.
  7. Preparation is a must. Think about how much you worked for it.
  8. Expose yourself to an audience more often. The more you will get use to being in front of the crowd, the less nervous and more confident you get, because performing has already become a part of you.
  9. Think about the bigger purpose of your performance.
  10. Lastly and most importantly, PRAY!!

I hope that these tips will help you because it has helped me. I did struggle with my confidence but now I am breaking the barrier of my doubt in myself. We are all in this together.

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Inspired by my own survival

In school, we were asked to run how many laps around the field at the same time sing songs we were asked to sing. It had to be done under the heat of the sun.

Oh by the way, this is for CAT, a military training program in school.

If you can’t endure the running or you feel like fainting, you may pull out and a medic will attend to you.

I honestly wanted to pull out, I was running out of breath but I made it till the end. Plus I’m anemic but that didn’t stop me. I’m not supposed to be under the sun for so long. Less than half of the girls survived. I’m one of the survivors.

My friends congratulated me for surviving and not giving up. This friend of mine said that he is proud of me because I didn’t pull out despite being anemic. I once told him that I am anemic and he mentioned that I made it unlike those who don’t have a medical condition but pulled out.☺ I’m so touched!!

I feel inspired by my own bravery. It made me think that if I can survived running under the heat of the sun, I can survive other things as well.

Don’t give up 💪

Who said that I’m FC (feeling close)?

Today in class, we had to write in each person’s paper anything about the person. Ex. “kind”

Summary of what my classmates has written: kind, helpful, generous, responsible, friendly, down to earth, diligent

I’m touched by what my classmates wrote. But that word bothered me. That’s FC. Who wrote that?

Hmm.. I guess we have different definition of feeling close.

Anyway, maybe that could be mistaken for my friendliness. I do socialize with my classmates like when someone is right beside me and I say Hi, as an acknowledgement and have a short convo with them. I don’t just but in a group conversation. Especially if it is a group I don’t really associate with so much. Also, I don’t but in privacy of others. So how am I FC?

I talk/ give a notice (like saying hi) to people because I acknowledge them.

Knowing myself, I am not FC. I just want to be friends with people. I want to interact and relate with people. It is better to be acknowledged than to be ignored.

 

Bravery I’m all about

I don’t get afraid of what the common external things people get scared of such as the ff.

  • Spiders
  • Snakes
  • Heights
  • Injection
  • Thunder
  • Darkness
  • Adventurous stuff (like zip lines)
  • Sparring
  • Ghost

People like my parents see me as a fighter. They see me as a brave girl. I don’t get scared of these things. But my fear is what’s within.

So many times I’ve held myself back because of the fear of failure. But I’m learning to overcome that fear. I’ve realized that at times we are bound to fail and I shouldn’t be so hard on my mistakes. I’ve just got to learn from them. I’m the person who worries a lot. I get tense. But I’m glad to say that slowly I am overcoming that. There are times I let the pressure get into me, when in fact there is no pressure at all. I’m just pressuring myself so hard. I’ve been such a try hard when I could just let things be. But I’m proud to say that I’ve gain strength to rise from those moments I’ve held myself back. Bravery I’m all about.

So, choose to be brave. I know we all have different fears. I may not be afraid of the things you are afraid of and I respect that. But together we’ve got to face our fear. We can’t always run away from our fears forever. Conquering one’s fear is such a noble act.

How I deal with insecurities

Okay. So I’m jealous this very smart person in my class. Also this Classmate who is a singer-composer and she becoming more famous for her talent. Also include those other multi-talented people. I’m jealous of my co-teammates who keeps on winning medals. I’m jealous of people who are physically attractive for they get the people’s attention. I’m jealous of those who always seem to be confident.

As much as I want to get rid of these insecurities. The insecurity is still there. Insecurities did lower my confidence.

So how do I deal with it?

1.) I replay those moments wherein people has seen my potential/ good side of me

•Replay in my mind the good words people said about me. Examples: Awesome, talented, smart, kind, etc. Also include those times people tell me, “you are so good at (this/that)”

2.) I enumerate those things about me that I am proud of. It is a self-motivator. Despite the insecurities, it reminds me that there are a lot of things about me to embrace.

3.) I pursue my passions. I am making a name for myself. It reminds me, “Oh why be jealous when there is something uniquely Great about you?”

Insecurities will always be there. Despite this, fill your thoughts with self affirmations. It makes you think again, “Why should you waste your time being insecure? Show them what you got!”

You may do the 3 things I’ve mentioned.

 

Insecurities isn’t easy to deal with. But use it as a motivation to show the world what you’ve got.

“Grades don’t necessarily matter. You fail at some point in your life. What matters is the hard work you put in what you are doing despite the likeliness of you failing. I think that is where our fear begin, FAILURE. We fear failure to the point that we beat ourselves once we fail. It’s okay to fail. We all do. No one is perfect. Just keep moving forward. You have the right to be disappointed and frustrated. Don’t just give up. Giving up shouldn’t be in your dictionary.”

It feels so nice

My mom met up with her friends. She proudly said the number of involvements I have in and outside school to her friends. Her friends were amazed of how far I’ve reach. I feel so flattered. It just feels so nice that your mom said that to all her friends in front of you. It comes to show how much she has recognized my efforts.

Despite that, I still got to be humble. I may tell you my involvements and achievements anytime but in between getting to where I am, I have moments of setbacks. I did started at the beginning. My will power to continue led me to where I am today. Also, there are so many people who I have to thank. Like those people who saw my potential when I didn’t see it in myself and who had confidence in me when I didn’t. Certain factors pushed me to where I am now. I’ve got to be always humble no matter how far I’ll even go.

ACHIEVEMENTS

Hi! I’m so supposed to sleep now but I can’t so I’ll write.

Anyway,

I’m graduating! Yay! Lately, I was asked to fill up stuff for the yearbook. Just earlier, I was filling up my achievements the past 4 years. I can’t believe that I have a lot. :O

Okay, this post is not to brag.

I never thought of receiving these achievements. The opportunities just came to me. My perseverance and determination has drove me through out the years. But these particular opportunities and achievements came by. That’s why I would humble express my joy and gratitude when it comes to my achievements. It would take me time to enumerate my achievements I have to say but it is only I who exactly know what I’ve been through in the middle on road of being where I am now. That’s why I would like to be humble when I talk about my achievements and may it inspires others to walk their own paths.

Embrace your achievements but still continue to move forward and to walk your paths. Be humble, always 🙂

Where do I get my patience?

People tell me that I am patient especially in dealing with others. According to them, you don’t really see that in people now a days. I was told that it’s a skill to be patient because not everyone is patient. But where do I get my patience? 

Okay, people don’t see me mad, like angry mad. I do express my frustration at times but not in a manner that I burst up. But a warning to those people who knows me, don’t ever make me mad or you would regret it. I could be your worse enemy because I do have the aggressiveness in which I don’t show to people. I don’t really get mad in front of people and I’d rather not.

I guess it’s is my personal experiences that led me to be patient and understanding to others. Maybe someone acts this certain way because that person is going through something. Who am I to lose my patience to that someone. And in times when I person can’t things right at first, I tell myself, “Who am I to give up on this person? That person is still learning.” Whenever I have grudges towards a person, I’d rather address it to the person than holding on to the grudge and losing my patience.”

Everyday our patience is being challenged. That annoying person in class may irritate me to the point my patience is tested but I am not the type who blows up. I just don’t like seeing people blow up, losing their temper, and hating on others because it changes the aura of the atmosphere.

Be patient and kind to everyone around you even though there are people you just want to punch because their behavior/ attitude has gone so far. Being patient and kind just makes things light and easier for you and those around you. Don’t let your frustration/ anger eat you up. 🙂

Settling Family Dispute

A family is never perfect. No matter how much one would post about their happy moments with their families online. Within a family, there will always be a conflict and misunderstanding.

Okay, years before, my family was so chaotic. Everyone was being mad at each other. The temper within the house was heated up. So many times I’ve cried because we weren’t ideally a family at that time. I had depression because of my past family dispute and my confidence when down.

My parent’s form of discipline is not what I ideally want. They would shout at me just to get a simple thing done. I would say in a bossy manner. At times, I’ve just got to understand them because they could stress at work but at certain points it went to much. If I did something, they will make me horribly feel bad about it. They would tell me that I’m irresponsible, lazy, stupid, idiot. Don’t you know how discouraging those words are? Because of the happenings at home, I become tense over simple things outside. I really have this fear of being scolded.

This is not the only thing that brought me down within the family. There are a lot more I have to say but I won’t share it here.

The problem within my family I have to say is our temper. We fail to express ourselves in a healthy form of communication. To the point fights are often made.

Do you know what I did? I tried to address that concern to my parents. It wasn’t easy. I didn’t act like all the bad happenings within the family was nothing. It really did affected me. I even made letters because it seemed impossible to have my voice be heard. I didn’t give up on my family because they will always be my family.

So if ever you have disputes within your family, address them. Don’t act like it was nothing. Don’t ever let the dispute continue. Get out from that hell by addressing them even if it was impossible at first.

Within my family now, we are respectful to each other. We laugh more now and no shouting has happened. I am more open to my parents now.

No family is perfect but your family will always be your family.

 

Don’t Judge

Don’t ever judge a person who has gone through rejections, defeats, and failures. Don’t shove it in front of their face, “Oh that person can’t accept failures/defeats/ rejections!” Because it is not easy and it hurts. It takes process to heal from a certain failure, rejection, or defeat. Give that person time. Acknowledge the fact that they still remain strong despite what happened to them.

My Parents has always been forgiving when it comes to grade

There are parents who really scold their child if they get a bad grade. But with my parent’s they don’t. They don’t pressure me to be in honors. But it is pressuring because they academically excelled. My dad was a cum laude while my mom was nearly a cum laude by one point. I’m expected by people to be the product of their brains combined. I can’t be a disgrace to my parents who are great achievers. I want to be an achiever just like them so as early as late elementary and early high school, I started to be involved in so many things and work hard in my academics.

I honestly let my dad sign the result of an exam wherein I get a low grade because he just signs it and tells me to do better next time. As for my mom, she is a teacher so she gets the grading system so it wouldn’t be a really good move to make her sign my exam results. It is my mom who pushes me to better especially that time I nearly failed in Math in 8th grade.

My dad told me that in he didn’t exactly got the best grades in his earlier day in school. But he rose up starting from grade 9 up to his college days. That story inspires me. It’s okay not to have a good start. It is more meaningful if you rose up from a bad grade and you eventually got up.

Whenever I have bad grades, I beat myself up. It is not because my parents would get mad at me. It is because I know I could have done more and it doesn’t have to do with not being smart. I believe I’m smart and capable. Also my parent’s effort to support my education is more than I could ever ask.

I really appreciate my parents for being forgiving me when it comes to my grades. I’ve learned to rise up and persevere from a bad grade. Not just when it comes to grades, but in life in general.

It’s okay if you don’t top your classmate. Be at the top of your current self. Learn and improve each day.

Lastly, to parent’s be understanding towards your child’s grade. They’ve been working so hard. Acknowledge their effort despite how hard it is.

School is hell but I have to get through it.

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